Where did I go?…. excuses & announcements!

Holy smokes! What a year it has been since my last post. It’s hard to believe it’s basically been that long.

So much has happened and changed since I last wrote anything I don’t know if I can update on everything or just start over and go from there.

I’ll try to give the cliff notes version of what has happened and updates on past year.Basically why I mainly disappeared is that both of our laptops took a crap about a week apart from each other. I tried using our iPad and iPhone but typing like that was just unbelievably difficult for me to do (I know the whole world uses them but I’m still an old-fashioned Windows kind of girl), I prefer typing on a keyboard. The other reason for not keeping up with things is because well my daughter keeps me busy and I got lazy (the MAIN reason). 1 nap a day is sometimes not enough time for me to take mommy time.

Who would have guess fixing 1 of our laptops was as easy as exchanging the batteries since one of them was junk. I, embarrassingly, thought about exchanging the batteries today for the first time…why are the simplest tasks somehow take the longest to complete or think of.

Anyways, here I am. I hope to do a better job finishing up 2016 into 2017 with writing more. I enjoy it. Even though I don’t think I have that much talent when writing or organizing my thoughts. I find my mind just bouncing around thoughts and ideas; my posts may be hard to follow or not flow from one to another.

Family Update #1: My Daughter

My last post I mentioned my daughter was around 12 months old and entering the ‘terrible two’ stage. Well,now she is almost 2 1/2 and even more sassy; except now she can use her words more which I’m not sure is better or worse than just fussing. I still try to pick my battles but I feel like she picks a battle with me about EVERYTHING! Mothers should be able to get an injection of patience because I need TONS more than what I have currently. She’s outspoken, full of energy, thinks she is so independent regarding everything…. and she’s absolutely beautiful and I couldn’t possibly love anyone more than I do her.

I wish I would have kept up with writing over the past year because she has grown so much and as I’m writing this I find myself disappointed that I let that time slip by without jotting down my thoughts and memories. Her 2nd birthday was such a great day; she LOVED her Minnie party. We took so many trips to our local zoo where she was able to do more and more with each visit. All the family visits we had… I wish I would have written about those to look back on later. Maybe I can write future posts allowing myself to reminisce about those events.

Family Update #2: We’re growing!

As much as I hope to do a better job with writing in 2017 I’m not sure I’ll be so great at it as we found out in late July that we are expecting our 2nd baby! We are beyond thrilled (and slightly terrified) about the news!

I think my husband and I figured it would take years to add to our family as it took 3+ years to have our daughter, but I guess once your body knows how to do it it’s a little more prepared! ha. We are due early April.

This pregnancy I think will FLY by as I’m already into my second trimester and sometimes I even have to remind myself I’m pregnant because this pregnancy is sooo different from my last. Morning sickness (which consisted of just nausea) only lasted a couple of weeks. Fatigue is a real thing but I think that is probably more from having a very active toddler and no coffee (I miss my coffee in the mornings and I look forward to a venti iced americano as soon as I can get one).

The only drawback so far is that I’ve been battling a cold (stuffy nose, clogged ears, frustrating cough) for almost 2 months now with little relief. I don’t know what it feels like to breath out of my nose it’s been so long. If anyone who may be reading this I’m open to anything that may help with it… I’m so over it!

I’m sure many of my upcoming posts will be about our upcoming arrival and how we are planning for him/her.

Health & Fitness Update:

I am still trying to make it to the gym as much as possible. I was going 5-6 days a week prior to getting pregnant but have backed down to 3-4 days a week. Being sick hasn’t helped and the morning sickness stopped me for a while. My focus this pregnancy is to go regularly as I just stopped going during my last pregnancy. My daughter actually goes to the kids room and enjoys it most days so that helps a lot with staying on a regular schedule.

With being pregnant I’m not trying to lose weight, max out new 1RM; but I’m focusing on maintaining the lifestyle and stay healthy throughout pregnancy so that hopefully after the baby is born it won’t be a hard transition back into like it was last time.

My workouts these days last about 45 minutes and I typically burn 250-400 calories per session. In comparison, before pregnancy my workouts took about an hour or so and was burning minimum of 500 calories per session.

Once I can get back to the more intense workouts I will work back to my old 1RM with my bench (150#), squat(235#), and deadlift(225#). Looking forward to getting back.

I think all of the above updates on all the major aspects of what has been going on. I hope to dedicate at least 1 day a week to take the time to write and get back on track with things that I’ve been wanting to do/write.

 

 

Holy Tantrums! ….

Someone should warn you when your child is around 12 months old that the ‘terrible two’ stage doesn’t mean that it starts when your child is two. My daughter is now 17 months and for last few weeks I’ve noticed a change in her tantrum outbursts.

Before she would get upset for reasonable things….stumble…I left the room… sleepy….etc. But now she will have a complete meltdown for apparently no reason at all. She wants a fork instead of the spoon. She doesn’t want to eat what I gave her. She wants to play with another toy. She can’t see the plane in the sky anymore. I’m left like “whoa child…. it’s not that deep”. I haven’t given into her demands (I don’t think sometimes I try to get her to pay attention to something else instead of the catastrophic event that just occurred to her). Sometimes I wonder if giving her even that kind of attention to distract her is feeding into her need for attention. I’m actually still unsure how I want to handle these tantrums. I want to be consistent in what I do but I wasn’t prepared to start thinking about this so soon! I thought I had a few more months!

I’ve read a lot into the subject and nothing has quite felt like how I would want to deal with it. My mom tells me to lightly ‘pop’ her to get her attention but I feel that doing so 1. teaches her to hit to get the response she wants 2. she’s already upset so I’m not sure how that will help. 3. I’m not quite comfortable with that. I know I was never really spanked as a kid but I know my mom gave my brother and I a few little poppings; and I turned out alright. lol

A lot of articles say to explain to the child what happened and the desired outcome I would like. UM that’s perfect in theory but have you ever tried to calmly explain anything to an upset 17 month old? Not realistic at this stage in her development. I do talk to her but I do it more because I talk to her and explain to her everything that is going on in her environment- I explain why we are getting dressed; what I’m cooking for lunch; etc.

I’ve also read about using a ‘time out’ for tantrums. Again, I can see how that could work for a child a little older but I don’t think my child is ready for that concept fully. I guess I have been up to this point doing a version of time out. When she starts to throw a fit where she flings her arms and legs (oh and the head banging… really child? so unnecessary; she has a flair for the dramatic flair) I will lay her down on the floor where she can’t get into anything or hurt herself then I’ll step back a bit and let her just have it out. I will watch her but I won’t give her the attention to feed into the tantrum. Eventually after a couple of minutes she will get up and come over to get in my lap. If she is still trying to throw a fit I put her back into the spot. Only if she comes to me calmer will I pick her up and hold her; and then talk to her.

Meal times are also becoming a lot more frustrating over the past several weeks. Sometimes I even find myself dreading it. She has been feeding herself with a spoon and fork for a while now which is great….sometimes. But now I can’t feed her without a fit and sometimes it would be easier, quicker, and not to mention CLEANER if I could just feed her so we can get on with going somewhere or if we are on a time crunch. I hate when she starts to throw a fit while eating because I don’t want her to choke on any food. I try to feed her what I cook for my husband and I but she is so finicky about new things that sometimes I don’t know if I should just give her that or if she doesn’t seem to like it give her something that I know she will like. I don’t want to create a habit of making essentially two meals but I also don’t want to force her to eat something she doesn’t like. Can we just go back to when she was drinking formula and that was all that required… lol! kidding! Well maybe a little serious.

I haven’t gotten to the point of pure frustration with her because I have been able to remind myself that this is a normal stage, she is still a baby even though she thinks she is so independent, and this is her way of communicating some of her feelings. So I know this is all a stage and it too will pass but I feel a little unprepared for it and I don’t want to be inconsistent in my actions with her so I’m hoping we find a groove soon. Granted I know that’s when she will start a whole new phase!

Until next time…. props to all the moms (and dads) out there going through similar situations! Parenting by far is the hardest thing I’ve ever done!

Leg day: A love/hate relationship

I think I have always been slightly different than the majority of people. I’ve felt this way for most of my teenage and adult years. I say that because if you look at or talk to females in the gym or fitness industry I would feel confident that their favorite day is leg day. I on the other hand loathe leg day. I get it … We all want the JLo booty and look great in pants. I want those things too I just don’t enjoy the workouts. I don’t enjoy the day after. Or the day after that! Don’t get me wrong I never skip a leg day and I lift heavy on leg days; so I put in the necessary work. Just… Well… Ugh it’s the necessary evil.

Over the past several months I am seeing some major improvement in my leg muscles. My calves are very defined. My quads are growing and becoming more defined as well. These two areas tend to develop and grow the fastest on my body so I tend to focus on my hamstrings and glutes on leg days.

Tonight was leg day and it was a really good burn in my glutes. Here is the workout I complete:
Wide stance squat 3-12 100#
Leg press 6-6 460#
Hip thrusts 3-12 135#
Leg extension 3-12 60#
Lying leg curl 3-12 85#
Cable glute kickbacks 3-12 20#
Standing calf raises 3-12 90#
Calf extensions 3-12 100#

I basically went exercise to exercise with little rest(time to set up next exercise). I took about 30-45 seconds between sets. I felt the burn in my glutes half way through and I’m sure tomorrow sitting and standing up will be difficult; but no pain no gain right?!?!?

Overall, I’m really proud of my progress thus far. As of last Monday I’ve lost 44 lbs and over 16″ (chest,waist,hips) since November 2014. I have done everything on my own so progress may be slow and I may have a few hiccups but I view this as a journey I will be on forever. This is a new lifestyle for me and I’m simply loving it. I have done a lot of research and reading about health and fitness related topics. I also really enjoy researching information on nutrition..a good, healthy diet is now more important than ever since becoming a mother. I want her to grow up with good quality food. She doesn’t know what cookies, juice, soda, chips, basically anything that’s junk. I’m proud of that! She’s 17 months old, she doesn’t need that crap.

my workout split right now looks similar to:

chest/triceps

back/biceps

legs

shouder/abs

It is getting colder out and it’s been too chilly in the morning to run with my daughter in the stroller. So in order to keep my body guessing I am switching up my cardio and adding some HIIT circuits into my workouts. I’m going to keep these to 15 minutes or so for now as I am fairly ne to this style of training. Updates to come regarding HIIT progress. So stay tuned!

walking….talking…. and not listening!

I live in a household with my husband, daughter, my black lab, and golden retriever. They all love me but they certainly don’t listen to me! Maybe I missed the memo that informed me that the words NO, DON’T, STOP, mean something different to these four creatures.I spend 90% of my day saying No, Stop, Don’t do that, Eh Eh! and then the other 10% is repeating those words! I think the most infuriating one is my husband; I mean he is an adult, right?!?! How can I expect the dogs and child to listen when he doesn’t! I know I’m not the only wife and mother who has felt that way so that thought helps!!

My daughter is now 17 months old and I am simply astonished at how fast she picks things up and makes associations with things. Her and I spend basically all day talking, singing, dancing, learning. It is so much fun to see her enjoy learning new things. To her I don’t think she realizes that is what we are even doing. I try to make it fun (usually at my own expense… I’m so glad no one can see or hear me throughout the day making up dances and songs). She has 37 words in her vocabulary, she knows 6 shapes, she can identify 6 shapes, and knows 14 animal sounds.

She is becoming so much more independent or so she thinks she is. I would love to let her walk around but she hasn’t quite grasped the concept of ‘walk this way’ or ‘come here’. Therefore it is easier for me to carry her to the car or to her bedroom, etc. My lovely husband hasn’t figured this out and lets her walk, then when it’s time to pick her up and actually go where we were originally headed she throws a fit…. then guess who gets her… MOI! I know she has to learn by doing and I’m fine with that but I tend to pick better times to allow her to ‘learn’… for example when its not meal time or when we need to go somewhere. She’s feisty and I think we are going to be in trouble with that as she gets older! She is however, for the most part a happy baby and has been really good when we are out in public, which I’m so thankful for. I know it probably won’t last but…. fingers crossed. Every day with her is still the best day I’ve ever had! With each new chapter her and I encounter we will just embrace it and find joy in it…. living in the moment!

Girls Bench Too

Have you checked out instagram or youtube to search for anything fitness related? Whether for ideas on future workouts or maybe to find some extra motivation one day. Well if you have one thing becomes very clear… Females post about doing leg workouts; specifically glute workouts CONSTANTLY! I get it, everyone wants a JLO booty and some ‘junk in the trunk’. I work my legs as well but it is definitely not my favorite thing to do… it’s more like the necessary evil since I enjoy running. I wish I saw more females showing their chest workout or working on biceps. I personally love doing bicep curls and bench presses. I follow a lot of male fitness pages because that’s where I find a lot of good workout material.

Back day is still by far my favorite and after every back workout I leave the gym feeling like a badass. Chest day isn’t far behind that though. I will admit for the first 5-6 months of working at the gym I avoided bench press; and for a couple of reasons. 1. I didn’t think I was ready for them. I go to the gym on my own so I don’t have a spotter and didn’t want to get caught in a position where I couldn’t lift the weight back up. 2. I was intimidated because everyone in the free weight area were men. And they were fit men for the most part. Fortunately after a while I just sucked it up and did it (ok, the gym was pretty empty so I knew no one would be watching me). From the first set I was hooked. I used to do a lot of the machines for chest or I would do cable crossovers…basically anything except bench. I also didn’t work my chest regularly because it’s not like it would make my breast smaller (which would be awesome). I began to research how chest exercises could benefit women and I found a lot of great material. So I decided to start incorporating a more regular chest day.

I now work chest/triceps/shoulders twice a week [currently I’m on a 3 day split that I repeat twice:

Day 1: legs (I do typically focus on my weakest part; hamstrings/Abs

Day 2: chest/triceps/shoulders

Day 3: back/bicep

Day 4: legs/abs

Day 5: chest/triceps/shoulders

Day 6: back/biceps

Day 7: REST day from gym

I go to the gym after my daughter goes to bed so I’m usually there from 8pm-9:30pm (I take advantage of my ‘me’ time)

I also run 3-4 days a week; usually 2-4 miles a day. I did run 6.5 miles today which is a huge victory as that is the farthest I’ve run EVER! YAY! For anyone that things running pushing a stroller makes it easier; let me tell you it doesn’t, especially uphill.

Anyhow, I am currently able to do 3-4 singles at 115# on flat bench and 3-4 singles at 100# on incline bench. I also love doing dumbbell bench and incline bench which I’m up to 40# dumbbells. It may sound kinda nerdy but I get a kick out of the fact that I go to pick up dumbbells from the second row of dumbbells. It also helps when people give you thumbs up or compliments your form and progress. My bench goal right now is 135#! I want a 45# plate on each side of that bar. I’ll get there in due time.

I’m not by any means the only girl in the free weights area there are a few of us and I hope to see more venture in that area. I’m sure by now you’ve seen or read the quote; “strive for progress, not perfection!” It is one of my favorite quotes because it’s so true in any aspect. Every time I enter the gym I am looking for progress from my last workout. One more rep, one more set, more weight. If someone reads this who is just starting out don’t worry if you are intimidated about a particular exercise, part of the gym, or anything. Just keep doing what you are doing and each time do one new thing to get you closer to whatever you’re nervous about. In my case, I did dumbbell bench/incline bench. These were in the free weights area so I was getting accustomed to the environment. I’d watch those with good form and take pointers. Slowly but surely you’ll get to where you want to be. Remember, every experienced or muscular person in the gym used to be just like you; new, nervous, unsure. Just do you! If someone reads this who is a veteran in the gym use this as a reminder to be less judgmental of ‘newbies’, offer to spot them, encourage them, or just ignore them and let them do their thing. I truly wish people would empower each other more instead of finding something to poke at. I could go on and on about that but I’ll move on.

I hope to see more females lifting heavy weights and to break out of the norm that all you should only do is squats, stair master, or plyo circuits. There are no boy exercises or girl exercises… working out is truly an equal opportunity environment. The weights won’t judge you for being male, female, new, or veteran… they just want to be lifted up and put back down.

my tip: Lift Heavy & Lift Often! :):)

Happy Lifting!

I’ve added a couple pics from my instagram account @tnm_514 of some of my chest workouts. 11247852_1492069081103100_1581588425_n 11349415_396298803914217_441241565_n 11850228_123339781348034_1491797210_n

NEW GADGET!!!

I’ve been really working on my health and fitness for some time now and I felt that it was time to step up my game when it came to tracking what I’m doing.

I’m very much still for paper/pencil tracking and I will continue to do this probably forever but I am officially in love with my new Fitbit watch. I got the Fitbit charge HR and I couldn’t be more happy with it. After reading reviews I was a little unsure about it but I haven’t noticed any inconsistencies with what I was using before; which was my Polar F4T watch. The best part about the Fitbit is that there is NO chest strap. I couldn’t even begin to tell you how many times I would forget the strap or the watch… or starting the watch when I was working out. With the Fitbit it does it for me! I also love that the app allows me to customize different aspects and monitor things throughout the day.

It really has motivated me to keep moving throughout the day because I want to hit my goals. If you know me at all by now I like checklists and goals; crossing something off my list or meeting a goal gives me such a high! (yes I know I’m strange).

The first time I used it to work out I wore my polar chest strap as well to see how close it was with heartrate and calories burned. After my run I noticed that the difference was less than 5 beats and within 20 calories. That to me is perfectly fine; because there is never going to be a completely accurate device. I love that I can track my water because I am HORRIBLE at drinking enough water. All I drink is water (and coffee… which let’s face it is flavored water) but I just never drink enough. I love that I can connect it to myfitnesspal and it will transfer how many calories I’ve had so I can compare with my daily progress how I’m doing! I just overall love it!

If you are in the market for one I highly recommend the Fitbit Charge HR. image1 (1) image3 (10) image4

7 years ago today!

It is crazy to believe that 7 years ago today I met my husband. It’s even crazier to sit and think about everything that has happened 7 years. I don’t know if it is normal but the older I get the faster time seems to go by. The past 7 years have not been easy but I wouldn’t trade them for the world. Thinking about this milestone just got me thinking about life, and time in general.

I remember being in younger thinking about when I got older, married, and had children of my own; I used to look at people (who I am now) and wonder what life was like as an adult. It doesn’t seem like that long ago yet it does. It’s bittersweet really. Now I look at younger people (who I used to be) and think that I hope they are enjoying their youth and all that is in front of them. As much as I wish I could go back in time I am also very content being 30, married, with a child of my own.

If you have every sat back and really thought about this journey that we are all on called life; it’s just crazy. We are constantly looking and dreaming of tomorrow and what the future holds. We reminiscence and long to revisit moments and experiences from our younger years. How often though do we just appreciate the now? That’s very very hard to do. Every day I talk with people about yesterdays and tomorrows; not as much of today though! I would like to do that more… appreciate the moment!

I’m so glad my plans changed 7 years ago and I went to that local bar and made eye contact with an attractive man. I’m glad he came up to talk to me. I’m glad I gave him my number. I’m glad he called. I’m glad I moved away from home to be closer to him. I’m glad he asked for my hand in marriage. I’m glad we got married. What I’m most happy about is having our daughter!

I know in comparison to some 7 years isn’t that long but for us it’s the longest relationship we’ve had. I’m looking forward to see what happens in the next 7 years!